THE BIRTH ORDER EFFECT FOR COUPLES Helping couples to understand each other is the theme of this book. It looks at personalities through Birth Order, explores the effects on relationships and suggests ways of dealing with issues in relationships. This book offers the first opportunity for a couple to truly understand each other. A couple who understand each other can enjoy each other's sense of humor, respect each other's way of doing things, know how to make each other feel loved, meet each other's emotional needs, interact appropriately in sensitive areas and much more. Understanding each other can melt away obstacles that seem insurmountable. Discussing each other's personalities as they are presented in the book rapidly brings on understanding of each other. Not only will a couple recognize themselves and each other in the book, they can add to what is in the book. Illustrations will pop into mind as they come to know themselves and each other in way never before possible. Marriages self-destruct unnecessarily. This book can reconstruct marriages in danger. It is a book that couples will want for themselves, and to give to married or about to be married children, to their friends in unhappy relationships and even to singles who hope for a good relationship in the future. Now Available!!! Amazon.com Barnes & Noble.com THE BIRTH ORDER EFFECT Cliff Isaacson and Kris Radish A revolutionary new system for understanding birth order -- featuring a remarkable new birth order quiz! Whether we're the first born, last born, or somewhere in the middle, our birth order - and how we view our place in the family - can tell us much about who we are and how we interact with those around us. In The Birth Order Effect , Cliff Isaacson shows us how to find our true place in the family structure, and how to use this important information in creating better relationships with those around us. The Birth Order Effect represents a new and revolutionary way of thinking about birth order. More important, this book enables readers to go beyond theory and put into practice what they learn. Special Features: Profiles of five comprehensive birth categories A simple test that pinpoints true birth order personality A look at factors that influence true birth order, such as divorce, adoption, blended families, and large age gaps between siblings Barnes & Noble.com Adams Media Corp or order direct from: Upper Des Moines Counseling Center Box 235 Algona, IA 50511 $10.95 plus $2.00 postage LOOK AT IT THIS WAY : REFRAMING LIFE'S EXPERIENCES by Clifford E. Isaacson "We create our own world by our perceptions. If we view life positively, our world is positive. If we view life negatively, our world is negative. We find what we look for, even if we are not aware we are looking..."(from the introduction). Communication How to Hear Important Things, Understanding People, Feeling Understood, Don't Say "Don't", Being and Doing, Doublets Turn Off the Mind, Don't Apologize, Tell Them "I Want To...", It's Okay to Think, How People Think Useful Information Trying Hard Doesn't Work, Don't Try to Keep It Clean, Time Speeds Up With Age, Life Passages, How To Spot Lying, Gullibility is Intelligent, Multiple Motivations, The Most Stressful Month, How Churches Are Different Positive Direction Success is Our Teacher, Choose to Feel Good, Attitudes to Make You Rich, Doing is Enjoying, Talk to Yourself, You Can't Be a Better Person, Have a Fire Escape, The purpose of Intelligence Marriage The Secret is Bonding, Men Marry Their Fathers/Women Marry Their mothers, Love Is For Grown-ups, Eating Out May help, Don't Work At It, Domestic Abuse: the Abuser, Domestic Abuse: the Abused Family Who Teaches What?, Discipline When Love Fails, The Futility of Punishment, Training Children to be Happy, Children Don't Spoil With Love, Give Permission and Have Power, Stop the Fighting, Instant Family Enrichment, Death At a Bad Time Problems How People Solve Problems, The Mid-life Crisis, Your Temper, Beware the Relapse, Procrastination, Commitment Phobia, Worry, Loneliness, Panic Attacks, Addictions Block Enjoyment, Homosexuality, Schizophrenia Relationships First Impressions, How People Listen, Why People Don't Understand People, Don't Persecute the Persecutor, It's Okay to Fight, There is no Independence, Steps to Intimacy, Your have Four Options, A victim Has the Power, Special vs. Important Strategies for Change How to Comfort People, Self-reprogramming, Instant Reframing, How to Lift a Curse, Psychovirus, The Phobia Cure, Overcoming a Headache, Getting to Sleep, How to Improve Your Memory, How to Remember Names, How to Remember Numbers, How to Pass Tests, How to Succeed Order direct from: Upper Des Moines Counseling Center Box 235 Algona, Iowa 50511 $9.95 plus $2.00 postage 112 WAYS TO SAY WHAT YOU WANT (Giving you statements you can make to get the results you want) A BOOKLET BY CLIFFORD ISAACSON Following are sample statements from the booklet: #8 - "Thank you for your patience." When you have made someone wait, that person will feel better hearing your appreciation than your apology. #18 - "You look (sound) angry." This statement tends to relieve anger. It makes the person step outside their anger to look at it, thereby dissociating from it. To those who tend to manipulate others by anger, it signals that you are not afraid of anger. #42 - "You are making a point by asking a question. Please state your point." Rather than answering a confrontational question, ask the person to say what he or she is getting at. It reduces the power in the point the person is making. Other statements deal with dealing with people who hang unto you, getting children to make a choice, responding to the person who frequently puts him/herself down, getting people to feel loved, handling confrontation, sales strategies, and making affirmations. Order direct from: Upper Des Moines Counseling Center, Inc. Box 235 Algona, Iowa 50511 $4.00 which includes shipping

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